Perception is highly personal, made from our life experiences and our temperaments. It’s almost as if each of us goes through life wearing a pair of glasses that alters the world so that we see it the way we need, want, or expect it to be. In other words, most of us don’t experience situations as they really are, but as we are. Two people could be in the exact same situation together and see things completely differently. And of course, this perception extends to our children as well. Sometimes the lenses we wear can block true understanding of our children, but understanding is critical to connection. That’s why, as parents, we need to make an effort to remove our glasses and see the world through our children’s eyes.