One of my favorite quotes around the topic of parenting is “Where did we get the notion that in order to make children behave better, we must first make them feel worse?” Read this quote again. Slowly.
Think about it. Powerful, isn’t it?
It’s a mistake to think the best way to help our children to do better is to criticize, shame, ridicule, humiliate, or punish them. Has that ever motivated you long term? This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t let your children know when there is room for improvement. It does mean that you don’t need to make them feel worse in order to get them to do better. Children usually know when they need to do better, just like adults usually know.